General
1. Trust your intuition as a parent. You know best.
2. Remember that your child chose you as her/his parent.
3. Be gentle on yourself.
4. Listen and talk to your child with respect.
5. If your child is of school age, consider alternative schools (e.g., Montessori schools, Waldorf schools, arts schools), homeschooling, or unschooling. Or maybe your neighbourhood school is a great fit for your sensitive child. This is, of course, a very personal decision, but it’s good to consider your options.
Having fun
1. Enjoy your child. Celebrate the joys of raising a sensitive child, and being a sensitive parent. Our story here.
2. Celebrate your child’s gifts.
3. Get a family pet (one that your child isn’t allergic to).
4. Do things that you like to do as a family — especially outdoor things.
5. Try yoga, dance, martial arts, or gymnastics.
6. Arts and crafts
7. Dance and sing – make up songs together.
8. Laugh, giggle, tickle and tell jokes
9. Be a silly Billy (as we like to say in our family)
Care of the emotional body
1. Teach your child to talk about his/her feelings.
General Body Care
1. Try baths with epsom salts, sea salt, baking soda and olive oil or coconut oil. Read more here.
2. Try Weleda toothpaste. More info here.
3. Try a castor oil abdominal massage for gentle cleansing and a variety of ailments.
Foods
My child is sensitive to a lot of foods, Make sure a casein-free / gluten-free diet may help your child for many other ailments.
1. Get your child tested for allergies, but in the meantime, try a milk-free and gluten-free diet (points 2 and 3 below).
2. Try a milk-free (casein-free) diet. It may take at least one month to show any improvements.
3. Try a gluten-free diet. It may take at least six months to show any improvements.
4. Try an MSG-free diet. There is MSG in just about everything (e.g., Campbell’s soups, flavoured potato chips). including MSG products.
5. Try reducing the amount of sugar in your child’s diet.
6. Buy as much organic produce as possible. Wash all conventionally grown fruits and vegetables with apple cidar vinegar.
7. Hemp seeds are non-allergenic, a great source of protein and essential fats.
8. If your child is allergic or sensitive to certain foods, even trace amounts of this type of food can lead to an allergic reaction. Avoid cross-contamination. For example, read here.
9. Keep a food journal.
10. If you’re not sure which foods are triggers, try an elimination diet, a few foods diet, or crystal testing (dowsing). Read here for more info re: dowsing with a crystal.
11. If you are introducing new foods, only introduce one new food every four days. (This is something that is obvious, but we often didn’t follow this advice and then it was difficult to know exactly what the trigger was).
12. If your child has been tested for a certain food or environmental allergen and it comes back as being “low”, but your child hasn’t been exposed to this particular food or environmental allergen, she/he may still be allergic to it.
Supplements
1. Find a good multi-vitamin.
2. Find out if your child is low on vitamin Bs, in particular, vitamin B12.
3. Find out if your child is low in vitamin D3. Read more here.
Currently, my son also uses the following supplements (this will vary from child to child):
1. Liquid calcium supplement
2. Liquid iron supplement
3. probiotics (recommended by his naturopath)
4. arnica homeopathic (for his past history of traumas – e.g., birth trauma; recommended by his naturopath)
5. sulphur homeopathic (for his rashes; recommended by his naturopath)
6. flaxseed oil (though if your child is not allergic to fish, I’d recommend cod liver oil; more here)
7. liquid chlorophyll
Tips for dealing with eczema
1. Saltwater compress
2. Omega 3 fats
3. High quality probiotic
4. Avoid highly allergenic foods (e.g., gluten, dairy, eggs).
5. Getting sufficient sun exposure or taking a quality Vitamin D supplement.
Health care practitioners
1. My vision of a health care system here.
2. Find a good naturopath.
3. Find a good chiropractor.
4. Find a good energy healer / shamanic practitioner / Reiki practitioner / Integrated Energy practitioner. I believe that sensitive children are especially helped by energy healing. An example of how energy healing helped our family here.
5. Find a good doctor that you can trust.
6. If you have unresolved problems from your own childhood and/or life, find someone (e.g., an energy healer) or a technique to help you deal with them. You child is sensitive and can sense your unresolved issues. Emotional freedom technique is a useful technique for releasing the emotional charge on issues. Our story here.
7. Listen to your own intuition before following the advice of any health care practitioner.
Minimize Medications
1. This one is hard to do, especially if your child is sick, but minimize medications as much as possible. We haven’t been able to completely, but do the best that you can. Trust your intuition on this one. Our story here and here.
2. If your intuition says not to vaccinate your child, DON’T DO IT!.
Minimize Environmental Toxins
1. Choose ceramic dental fillings over stainless steel or mercury amalgam fillings. here.
2. Minimize the toxins in your environment. More information here.
3. Use natural cleaners (e.g., vinegar, baking soda).
4. Open up the windows and let fresh air circulate in your home.
5. Ensure there is no mold in your home.
6. Use cast iron pans to cook with.
7. Purchase a good air purifier.
8. If you are renovating your home, find another place to temporarily stay during the renovations.
9. When painting, use no VOC or low VOC paint.
Care of the energetic body
1. Try smudging (using the smoke from sage stick) your child’s body, room and home to clear the energy of the room.
2. Consider putting crystals in your child’s room.
3. Spend as much time outside as possible.
4. Teach your child yoga, a martial art, and/or tai chi.
5. Consider registering your child for a Reiki for Kids or an Integrated Energy for Kids class. My little crystal is now a Reiki master I.
6. Find an energy healing practitioner (Reiki, Integrated Energy Therapy, Shamanic Healing).
7. Try putting a himalayan salt crystal lamp in your child’s room. Read more here.
8. If your child has trouble sleeping, some tips here.
9. Teach your child about the spirit world (that it does exist). If your child mentions talking to spirits or angels, s/he probably is.
Care of Sensitive Babies
Many of the other tips apply to the care of sensitive babies. In addition…
1. Try attachment parenting.
2. Try breastfeeding as long as you can (but if your child is sensitive to foods, you will need to restrict your diet as well).
3. If your baby is extremely colicky, I would eliminate milk from his/her diet immediately (and from your diet too if you’re breastfeeding). Remember, it can take up to a month to see any changes because it takes a while for the milk protein to leave his/her and your system after you’ve eliminated it from your diet.
Self-care for Mom and Dad
1. Schedule at least once a month dates for mom and dad.
2. Schedule at least once a week time for you. Follow your bliss. .
3. Find time to exercise. Even 10 minutes a day.
4. Find time to meditate or center daily.
5. Build a support group of friends.
6. Get body work (massage, acupuncture, chiropractic, energy work) once a month.
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The Law of Accident
The Universe is an orderly and perfect place, governed by a set of unbreakable laws. As is true with the physical laws of nature (gravity, action / reaction etc.), Universal Laws apply to everyone and everything, at all times – there are no exceptions – whether you know about them or not. In fact, there are more than one hundred and fifty of these laws, but there are seven core laws from which all the others originate. In this article, we will focus on the second of the LawAccident2core seven laws – the Law of Accident. All seven are on the web site.
The Law of Accident is the inverse of the Law of Control, and states that an individual will have low levels of self-esteem and feel negative about themselves, to the degree that they feel they are not in control of their destiny and decisions. Individuals, who do not live by the Law of Control, must then by definition live by the Law of Accident.
Put another way – this law is fundamentally about choice. Do you want to start creating for yourself – start taking charge of your life rather than wonder around and say the world is against me. It is your choice – choose.
We know that high self-esteem is a key ingredient to achievement and success in life. Living life by the Law of Accident, and the resulting low levels of self worth, must then dictate diminished success, personal hardship, feelings of emptiness and worst of all, victim-hood.
Those who live by the Law of Accident tend to be habitually negative in their outlook on life and situations.
They have an uncanny ability to take a very positive situation and put a very negative spin on it – in other words, they look for the dark cloud surrounding every silver lining!
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They are reactive rather than proactive – they wait for something to happen and then must react, rather than taking steps in advance to avert potential problems. They feel they are victims of circumstance and are quick to assess blame and make excuses when things go wrong. They have no sense of personal responsibility because in their minds, it is always somebody else’s fault.
All of this can be distilled down to one crucial fact – whether one lives by the Law of Control or the Law of Accident, is all a function of awareness level. People who are very self-aware and who think for themselves are the people that live by the Law of Control. They are personally responsible, and are therefore response-able (able to choose their responses). Those that are unaware by contrast, live life by the Law of Accident. They are unaware and do not choose their responses to any situation – rather they react out of habit with conditioned responses that have been learned over a lifetime.
We are all familiar with individuals as described above - in fact, you may even fall into the trap yourself! If you do, you are not alone; the reason being that fully 95% of society today lives by the Law of Accident. This is a staggering number, but is also sadly true. Simply take a look around and you will see the evidence everywhere – poor performers in the workplace, road rage, escalating crime rates, full prisons, liability litigation etc. are all signs of a very unaware society that absolutely lives by the Law of Accident.
If you want more out of life then take control by choosing to change. Take the first step today - accept the fact that you are responsible for everything that has happened in your life to this point. It does not matter how you got there. The point is you can choose to change it now. Make positive, thoughtful choices which will move you closer to your desires. Become aware of your thinking. When negative thoughts attempt to infiltrate your mind, push them back – replace them with positive images and thoughts.
Determine what it is that you want in life, build plans to achieve your desires and then focus exclusively on what it is that you want. Adopt the attitude that it’s not what happens to you that counts – it’s how you react that makes the difference. Science shows us that it takes 21 days to break or create a habit. By following the above-mentioned steps, you will be on the path to creating positive habits, taking control of your life and ultimately, overcoming the Law of Accident.
The Law of Accident is the inverse of the Law of Control, and states that an individual will have low levels of self-esteem and feel negative about themselves, to the degree that they feel they are not in control of their destiny and decisions. Individuals, who do not live by the Law of Control, must then by definition live by the Law of Accident.
Put another way – this law is fundamentally about choice. Do you want to start creating for yourself – start taking charge of your life rather than wonder around and say the world is against me. It is your choice – choose.
We know that high self-esteem is a key ingredient to achievement and success in life. Living life by the Law of Accident, and the resulting low levels of self worth, must then dictate diminished success, personal hardship, feelings of emptiness and worst of all, victim-hood.
Those who live by the Law of Accident tend to be habitually negative in their outlook on life and situations.
They have an uncanny ability to take a very positive situation and put a very negative spin on it – in other words, they look for the dark cloud surrounding every silver lining!
LawAccident2
They are reactive rather than proactive – they wait for something to happen and then must react, rather than taking steps in advance to avert potential problems. They feel they are victims of circumstance and are quick to assess blame and make excuses when things go wrong. They have no sense of personal responsibility because in their minds, it is always somebody else’s fault.
All of this can be distilled down to one crucial fact – whether one lives by the Law of Control or the Law of Accident, is all a function of awareness level. People who are very self-aware and who think for themselves are the people that live by the Law of Control. They are personally responsible, and are therefore response-able (able to choose their responses). Those that are unaware by contrast, live life by the Law of Accident. They are unaware and do not choose their responses to any situation – rather they react out of habit with conditioned responses that have been learned over a lifetime.
We are all familiar with individuals as described above - in fact, you may even fall into the trap yourself! If you do, you are not alone; the reason being that fully 95% of society today lives by the Law of Accident. This is a staggering number, but is also sadly true. Simply take a look around and you will see the evidence everywhere – poor performers in the workplace, road rage, escalating crime rates, full prisons, liability litigation etc. are all signs of a very unaware society that absolutely lives by the Law of Accident.
If you want more out of life then take control by choosing to change. Take the first step today - accept the fact that you are responsible for everything that has happened in your life to this point. It does not matter how you got there. The point is you can choose to change it now. Make positive, thoughtful choices which will move you closer to your desires. Become aware of your thinking. When negative thoughts attempt to infiltrate your mind, push them back – replace them with positive images and thoughts.
Determine what it is that you want in life, build plans to achieve your desires and then focus exclusively on what it is that you want. Adopt the attitude that it’s not what happens to you that counts – it’s how you react that makes the difference. Science shows us that it takes 21 days to break or create a habit. By following the above-mentioned steps, you will be on the path to creating positive habits, taking control of your life and ultimately, overcoming the Law of Accident.
Quantum Energy
The cosmos is just a form of universal energy which obeys the science of physics based on these three principles: 1) everything is energy; 2) energy follows thought; 3) what you focus on you get more of.
If we are like cosmic magnets, we can learn how to use our energy within in this Universal Energy or Quantum Energy field to help us attract what ever we want. The irony of the matter is that we are currently doing it on a subconscious basis at the moment. All that we need to do is learn how to do it on a conscious basis and thereby manifest exactly what we want. Our thoughts and feelings send out a magnetic field, and universal energy matches our attraction by giving us more of the same, resonant energy. That is why your life reflects your belief systems, in other words the universe supports you exactly with what you have requested. If there are aspects to your life you don’t like then change it.
If we are like cosmic magnets, we can learn how to use our energy within in this Universal Energy or Quantum Energy field to help us attract what ever we want. The irony of the matter is that we are currently doing it on a subconscious basis at the moment. All that we need to do is learn how to do it on a conscious basis and thereby manifest exactly what we want. Our thoughts and feelings send out a magnetic field, and universal energy matches our attraction by giving us more of the same, resonant energy. That is why your life reflects your belief systems, in other words the universe supports you exactly with what you have requested. If there are aspects to your life you don’t like then change it.
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